DISQUS

Carmen · 1 year ago

I like reading your blog a lot, but honestly I get tired of your showing off. Your elitism doesn't bother me and neither does your pretentiousness because I'm guilty of both, but sometimes your blogs dance the line of being tacky.

Anonymous · 1 year ago

if you're tired of defending yourself, then stop! who cares what they think? you have a ton of loyal readers. focus your attention on those people instead of the few who think you're pretentious. if you don't get a thicker skin, you're never going to make it in the fashion industry.

Anouk · 1 year ago

I know what you mean, coming from a sort of similar background, though my parents also oddly had hippy tendencies. People from different socio-economic backgrounds tend to be very quick to judge in my experience, maybe because they think "rich" people judge them when that is most often not the case.

Anonymous · 1 year ago

i agree with the anonymous before me. Just ignore the comments!

Noel · 1 year ago

Carmen:
Well, no one's perfect :], and thanks I value your thoughts :]!!
Anonymous:
You're very right ;] thanks hun!
Anouk:
Your name is beautiful :] thanks hun!
Anonymous:
;] Thanks for the advice dear!

Gala · 1 year ago

Hi cutie! Love your work. But I agree with the people who said just stop defending yourself. You don't owe your detractors anything, it's a waste of your energy & time. There are much more effective things you can do with your time. Plus, the more attention you give them the more they'll flick it back at you, & the more it pulls things away from your original intention (a fun, frivolous, informative fashion blog).

xxx!

Martin · 1 year ago

We run with the cards we're dealt, we either make the most out of it or we let it slip us by. I definitely think you're one of those people who do the former, I love reading your blog so don't stop.

Cheers.
- Martin
somuchtrouble.livejournal.com

Secretista · 1 year ago

Girrl. Who cares what they say. Brush your shoulders off. So honestly, I love you (I hope that doesn't sound so intrusive), I think you're great. You don't have to defend yourself, because you ARE great and all great ppl are hated by some. You are doing the right thing by not biting back. Trust me you've got greatness coming to you and I know it. You remind me of me in someways when I was in High School *tear*.

Viii小公主 · 1 year ago

There is nothing wrong with elitism. Be proud that you're elite because you deserve it.

Anonymous · 1 year ago

If anyone deserves to be proud of themselves, it would be you!

However...at the same time, fact is, a LOT of people do read this blog. And I'm not at ALL saying that you shouldn't be proud and share your accomplishments--you seem like an absolutely amazing person. But I think that there's a way to do that without having this slight pretentious, "showing-off" undertone that I think your readers are complaining about. That is not to say, of course, that it is because of your personality, or that this is unique to you--most writers around your age and stage in life have the same thing going. It's just that...I peruse a lot of blogs. Some of the people who write them are amazing, dedicated overachievers who are traveling the world and expanding their horizons, like you. But there's just a difference between relating your accomplishments and having this very slight edge of pretension.

Just as an example...hmm. Like, very small things like this sentence are a little striking, when you say: "I force myself to maintain a perfect academic record." Undoubtedly you are EXTREMELY smart...but to say that it's perfect...it's kinda pushing it over the edge, ever so slightly. There are a lot of other equally minor instances, but all together, I can see why some touchier readers would get disgruntled.

Again, it's nothing against you personally; I was directed to this blog by a friend and I'm very glad I read it. I'm sure that this little nitpick in your writing style will resolve itself with age and experience, I just wanted to clarify what I think the other readers are getting at, so you can get even better than you are now!

susie_bubble · 1 year ago

Well, I speak from experience of anon cruddy commentors and all I can say is I've learnt that reacting to them is the worse thing you can do...adding fuel to the fire and all that... I've been guilty of that all too often but now, I just read 'You're fat/ugly' comments and let them wooosh over my head....

Noel · 1 year ago

Gala:
Why are you so beautiful? Thank you so much!
Martin:
Aww thanks dear :]!
Secretista:
I think someday, we have to meet up in NYC ;].
Vii:
You definitely remind me of someone else I know -- blunt but at the same time lovable haha :]. Funny enough you both have lived in China.
Anonymous:
Thanks for your input :].
Susie_Bubble:
Hmm I should probably let them be now :].

holly · 1 year ago

Miss Couturable! Being elite is nothing to make excuses for. You didn't choose your parents, so there's no reason to make excuses for your lifestyle! People are jealous and you can't change that, sweetie. I love you, and all of my friends do to. You have immense talent and don't need to keep posting "administration" posts. They're a waste of time when you could be looking at pretty dresses and shoes! :) Don't listen to those haters, they're losers and I feel bad for them. If all of that doesn't help, think of it this way: Anna and Coco had people who tried to get them down... but what did they do? Became a leading force in fashion like you will be and are becoming! ;)

Daydreamer · 1 year ago

You shouldn't constantly explain yourself or worry about what others may think of you. I think you are such a great girl and are experiencing such great opportunities. Those who bash you or make you feel bad for who you are, are jealous. It's just jealousy. Whenever someone is accomplishing great things, especially at such a young age, people feel the need to bash them. Keep your head up.

Anonymous · 1 year ago

This was an amazing post. I love your confidence and pride in who you are. You are a role model to all those that are trying to pursue their dreams and get somewhere and won't let any rude comments bring them down.

Love you, NOEL!

Anonymous · 1 year ago

Hey, don't let other people's comments get you down. I think this is your third post defending your position, and to be honest, I'd very much rather be reading about your college visits or your opinion on fashion. Let the haters hate; you'll get a lot more criticism once you break into fashion/marketing industry anyway.

Anonymous · 1 year ago

love this blog

M.B. Whimsical · 1 year ago

Dear Miss Couturable,
Gala's spoken, and so have all your readers.
Stop defending yourself! Stop giving explanations of why you are who you are, and why you do what you do.
You are what you are, Noel. And you are highly accomplished, very special girl, and the best part is you're not afraid to show it, and you're determined of showing the world what you're capable of.
That's what I love about your blog.
You're empowering. You believe in your ideals.

Do you think Anna Wintour doesn't get any criticism? Gracious, she does! And do you think she keeps defending herself, and giving explanations of what she does, or say?
You're going to be in this media, right? That's what you're aiming for. Well then, this is nothing compared to what you'll face. You can't let people get to you. IT's hard and frustrating I know, but just stick to yourself with you head up high. You are Miss Couturable, because you want to be.
You are what you are, and you're right your education is not an excuse, but the choices you make you what you are.
And yes, I think there are things you could say in a more subtle tone, but you are what you are, and it's awesome that you're not afraid to show it.
If you get criticism then just take whatever you can get from it, the rest discard it. You said it, criticism makes us grow. Ater all, hey, a stranger just bothered on making me a better person. It might help, it might not.
Let's look at the bright side, allright?
Just don't let people get to you or they'll bring you down.

Nex time, dear Noel, just think: "What would Mary Poppins do"?
(hey don't laugh I'm serious!)
She never gave any explanations at all, of what she did, why, or even who she was.
She was what she was.

And so are you. But never forget there's always room for improvement. As you said, nobody's perfect.
But don't worry I know nobody's gonna get you down.

Viva La Couturable!

Infinite x's & o's...
M.B. Whimsical.

natasha · 1 year ago

i was brought up in a somewhat similar fashion - my mom wouldn't let me buy clothes from H&M, for example - but i don't think your upbringing defines who you are as a person. you yourself chose who you are, and as you get older you evolve.

also, there is a difference between being elitist and being a bitchy spoiled brat. you seem like a truly down-to-earth person from what i've read in your blog, and you shouldn't let such comments get to you!

much love,

andie · 1 year ago

I don't know what's wrong with THOSE people, but I honestly think that your blog is amusing, kind of like reading 'Clueless' if it's a blog (in that cute, elite way), and with the achievements that you've made, I'm pretty surprised that you're still well grounded. Just keep it up and let THOSE people do what they want, afterall, criticism is the best form of flattery, isn't it?

M :) · 1 year ago

I like your blog-- a lot, in fact-- but I've always believed that the true elite never, ever talk about the fact that they are. It's just not done. I do think you're quite responsible and a wonderful cupcake maker as well. Keep on writing!

Noel · 1 year ago

Everyone:
Thanks for your input :]!! Sorry -- there's just too many comments to reply to. I put "elitist" in parenthesis because I don't think I'm truly "elite" -- I still have a long way to go to make something of myself :].

Anna · 1 year ago

let me just state to the everyone here, I believe that this is a direct response to my commentary on "insomniac cupcakeoholic" regarding noel's posting of her SAT scores. Unfortunatly I dont want to risk summerizing the email i sent and sacrificing what i was trying to say, but basically, i think some of the ways that my difference in opinion and constructive criticism i gave should not have warranted a seperate post and what appeared to me as an immature reaction. she has every right to be proud of who she is and what she wants to do with this blog, but....i did find some of this a bit inappropriate, especially in relation to what was awaiting me when i did happen across this blog today.

http://misscouturable.blogspot.com/2008/03/insomniatic-cupcakeholic.html

M.B. Whimsical · 1 year ago

Is this whole thing about SAT scores?
Goodness, Noel worked very hard for it, let's just all be happy for her all right?
Haven't we all ever achieved something we worked very hard for and were so happy, you felt like shouting it to the world?
At least I have...

Infinite x's & o'...
M.B. Whimsical.

Nixipixie · 1 year ago

I'm a frequent reader of your blog and this is the first time that I'm commenting but this post moved something inside me. It's very refreshing to see a girl who doesn't take her lifestyle for granted and appreciates what her parents do for her in a world filled with children who seem to think that their luck is something normal and continue to demand more. I find myself very lucky to live the life i do and am conscious that both my parents work very hard to provide me with the the most comfortable lifestyle and for that i am very grateful and I too sometimes find myself having to give an explanation to prejudiced people and its tiring. Your incentive and hard work have served as an inspiration for me to strive for what i want to acchieve. So i thank you for writing this blog and I dont think you owe anyone an explanation.

Nix
xxx

Anonymous · 1 year ago

Even this post has a tone about it that says 'I think I'm better than you'.

I just read your SATs post. Instead of that boastful, arrogant couple of paragraphs, you could have said 'I did better than I thought I'd do and now I'm really happy, it means I can get into the schools I want to go to'.

I think you think you're very clever and mature, and clever you may be, but posting exam results is incredibly childish behaviour.

Jude

Krista · 1 year ago

DO NOT DIM YOUR SHINE FOR SOMEONE ELSE. I e-mailed you a few weeks ago, applauding your accomplishments. The people criticizing you are either terribly young, or downright hating. I am in my mid-20's and am so envious of your accomplishments. You know your stuff and work incredibly hard. Getting an almost perfect SAT score is worth bragging about! You will always have people jealous of you... but do not dim your shine because they're not. Don't explain yourself. Don't defend yourself. Live your life, because there are more people out here in cyberspace that envy you than the few who just don't get it (and probably never will).

Anonymous · 1 year ago

Well, I think there are times when you just have to stop talking about your "elitist" life and move on. I know people in the bracket of top 10 wealthiest in America and not once have they or their children bragged. I don't care about your credit card bill, low or high. Putting your prep school on here doesn't sound cool or rich or impressive. So what if you were born in an elitist environment but don't act like a snob, it doesn't get you far in fashion. Good Luck... you are going to need it with this attitude.

Tal · 1 year ago

1)i think you're adorable, i don't think you act elitist at all. this is your life and you live it, you aren't boasting and you aren't constantly reminding us of where you live and where you go and what you have in your life.

2) the only, ONLY people who say you act "uppity" are jealous people. and tragic, patheticly (sp?) jealous people. so i wouldn't worry bc you're 10x the person they will ever be.

3) i'm make_me_wonder from lj. i just kinda happened onto here, i remember once you told us on spoiledgirls about this. but i just wanted to say that you're very lucky for the opportunities you have (and i kno you know this) and that i totally understand the pressure your parents put on you and you put on yourself. I know its hard and i know it takes a lot to please immigrant parents (they always, always want you at your 100% best) and that you probably earned everything you have in your life. i get a lot of BS from people about having nice things too, but honestly...i make great grades and i'm a good kid, i earned those things, i'm not just a bum and getting by on my parents money. i try.
but anyway, i'm sorry this is a book i just wanted to say that you worry too much about other people, you're a good person and you know that you work hard and thats all that matters.